They’re always slow to respond, but get angry when you are They cancel plans frequently, normally at the last minute They’re not committed to you, but get jealous They’re affectionate in private but not in public They say they like you but there’s no progress
They ignore your messages but like your posts You can be proud of giving something a shot but deciding it’s not going to serve you any longer because mixed feelings don’t serve anyone. You don't have mixed feelings about mixed feelings. They’re going to do what they say they’re going to do. If someone is truly eager to get to know you… they’re not going to keep you at arm’s length, they’re not going to keep you guessing and they’re not going to drop the ball. See their mixed signals for what they are… their own confusion and their own uncertainty. They’re going to be confused about what they want but they’re going to date anyway. Just as you don’t need to think twice about mixed signals, you don’t need to think twice about your self worth in that scenario. So if you’re on the receiving end of mixed signals after a short amount of time, it’s OK my friend.ĭon't take it personally. They didn't get to know you! They only saw a sliver of who you are. I really hope you don’t take it personally. So if someone hits you with some mixed signals after date one or date two… I really hope you don’t take it that hard. One or two dates is simply not enough time to get to know someone! It's not enough time for someone to know you, who you are and to recognize all the epic, amazing things you have to offer. You met and then what? Was it enough? Are you both eager to continue moving forward? Who makes the next move? Right? Usually I find this happens after a first or second date. You should never feel bad for being on the receiving end of mixed signals. It just means they’re not willing to be intentional. That doesn’t necessarily make them a bad person. If you have to wonder if someone wants to get to know you better, then the answer is already clear to you. That's a different story.īut if they're not. what do his/her actions tell you? Are they trying to become sure? That's great. We're all unsure about someone at some point in our dating journey. If that’s the case, it’s on you to decide what to do next. If you’re confused, it’s probably because he is or she is. When someone likes you, you're not going to wonder if they do. If he doesn't ever want to meet your friends… that is a mixed signal. If he never asks deep questions to get to know you better… that is a mixed signals. If he never wants a label on your relationship. If he says he’s a bad texter… I'm sorry but that's bullsh*t… that is a mixed signal. If he only gives short answers to your texts, that is a mixed signal. If he keeps canceling on you at the last minute, that is a mixed signal. If he only makes plans with you when he has nothing going on, that is a mixed signal.
If he’s acting confused, if he’s keeping you at arms distance, if he’s giving mixed signals… it’s because that’s his intent. You should have no mixed feelings about mixed feelings because you already have your answer! If someone is making you feel confused about what they want… well there’s your answer. You had no mixed feelings about your intent and as a result they had no mixed reaction. And so that other person probably wasn’t unsure or confused about your intention. You texted, you called and you communicated. You were eager to see more of them and you freakin' acted like it, right?! There was no question whether you did or not. Think about someone you really liked or were crushing on at some point. I don’t think this is overly simplifying life. If you have to wonder, beg for attention, always set up the dates… you already have your answer. If you have to ask, then the answer is probably no. If someone’s actions confuse you about what they want from you, you already know the answer.
If you're unsure if someone is interested you. You should have no mixed feelings about mixed feelings! What do you do with those mixed feelings? How do you know if he actually likes you? How do you know if she actually likes you? How do you know if you're just overthinking things? So you're going to inevitably find yourself coming up against people who give you mixed and confusing signals. Here's a not so fun fact for ya: the dating pool is regrettably filled with people who date without knowing what they want.
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